Making things clearer

This topic is specially dedicated for those who takes me as a friend (literally) but lets see whether either i am worthed to be your friend. My previous post had whisper much of it.

Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) narrates,
"After the advent of Islam, the greatest benefit to a Muslim is in the guise of that friend he has selected, only to please Allah."

But nowadays, a lot of people establish their bonds of friendship and enmity based on the gain they are likely to achieve on a personal level. That is, if a person has some utility, he qualifies as a friend, else he is an enemy. However, that should never be the benchmark for us.

A friend’s character and personality will rub off on that individual. It is for this reason that it is said, "A man is known by the company he keeps."
And my dear friends back-there are compromising with those who had;
1) made their own rules of Judgement,
2) denying the defendant's right to defend himself,
3) acting like they are a group of Ma'sum, and would-never-do-any-mistake
4) labelling their own muslim brother as enemy (and kicked him out)
5) ego higher than caliph Umar al-Khattab, even the caliph gives reasons for his actions
6) masked their actions by the word Syura and Islamic teachings
7) etc...etc..

and the Holy Quran had explained,
"The friends shall on that day (of judgement) be enemies of each other except those who guard against evil." (Zukhruf : 67).

So, would you like them to be known as your friend in this world, and enemies for the judgement day?
Would you love it if Allah accuse you for "Bersubahat" on this wrong-doing?

Well, you may do so, but i'm not. And i had been trying to wake them from their throne-of-hypocrites for so long, and i'd done enough for my level.

May Allah bestow guidance to them (and us). Amin.

The 2 Fables of 1 boy

At last, i'm completely no longer one of them. This is not a grudge -where both sides are waiting for one side to break-, and this is not a protest. It is that, i'm no longer waiting for them to apologize. I am not waiting at all.

The journey in a life like mine is about finding a place where you can exist at a level of peace. Every negative experience reopens wounds. I had to stop putting myself in situations where i was vulnerable to them. I had to stop trusting them and confiding in them. I have to stop giving them the chance to hurt me.

It is important to recognize how hard we had tried. On one end of this spectrum, we try everything we can possibly try until there is no more try left in us. At the other end of the spectrum, our own health is the priority. Stop trying when the pain of this unrequitted trying is preventing us from healing! But even now, i don't have the answer on where the limit of the spectrum we should be.

Honestly, it is hard to forgive people when they simply sign us they've realized their mistake but they haven't really offered any proof.
There is a voice is my head that says i need to move on -regardless of whether they have properly apologized.
This is the voice that knows holding on to resentment is poisonous.
This is the voice that wants to let go of that anger, wipe it clean; despite legitimate fear that it might be opening the door to be hurt all over again.

For one thing, forgiving our enemies is the easy part. The hard work is in forgiving those you trusted to care for you, those precious few you believed would keep your interest in mind, the person you thought would never do that to you.


And so, there are these two fables of a boy;

1) A boy succeed in everything he do, and he lives happily ever after.

2) A boy stands up as a leader. He suffers. He lose his post for unknown reasons to a don't-care-about-the-truth friend, his plans are executed as if it were not his. He was punished recklessly, not accordance to Islamic principles, and yet his muslim brothers and sisters just sit down idly as obedient youngsters. Out of weakness, he had been giving, but he learns from it. He fights depression, but he also waits for himself to work through it. His family left him, his friends left him, his trusted companions left him. He run out of tears. But he believes Allah would never abandon him. The love lasts. He carry on the mission, and he lives happily ever after.

Which of these, ultimately, is a better story?

Siapa yang Egois?....

Gambar sekadar hiasan

Setiap manusia mempunyai ego tersendiri. Lelaki dengan cara ego mereka, perempuan juga tidak terkecuali. Malah lebih parah apabila kaum nisa’ ini mencampurkan ego mereka dengan emosi yang sering menguasai diri.  Tidak kisah lelaki atau perempuan, egonya berperingkat dan menyakitkan insan yang terlibat.

 

Perkara yang lebih menyedihkan adalah orang yang tinggi dan hebat ilmunya tidak boleh menerima pendapat orang lain atau orang bawahan, orang yang banyak dan luas pengalamannya tetapi tidak mampu berkongsi pengalamannya. Malah menyombong diri dengan pengalaman yang dia ada, senior dari segi umur tetapi tidak pandai meraikan adik-adik yang lebih 'junior'.

Jika egonya tinggi, orang yang berilmu dan banyak pengalaman akan menganggap dia sahaja yang hebat. Semua pandangan dan kata-katanya adalah keputusan; tanpa perlu menunggu hasil syura.

Lebih parah pabila terdapat  ahli majlis syura yang ego dengan keputusan dia (mereka) di dalam syura lantas membuat keputusan yang melibatkan anak buah Tanpa mengemukakan alasan yang kukuh kepada pengikut; tetapi mendesak anak buah wala' pada keputusan yang diragui ke-rasional-an nya.

Bagaimana mungkin syura tadi mendapat mandat daripada para pelaksana jika anak buah di layan seperti musuh. Sikap ini tidak ubah seperti pemerintahan kuku besi yang sememangnya bukan sikap kepimpinan yang ditonjolkan Rasulullah S.A.W.

"Sesungguhnya pada diri Rasulullah itu adalah ikutan (teladan) yang baik untuk kamu"...

(Surah al-Ahzab: 21)

Lebih memalukan, mereka menganggap setiap kejayaan yang dimiliki  organisasi adalah kehebatan mereka semata-mata dan mereka yang bukan ahli tidak layak untuk menegur tindakan-tindakan mereka. Nauzubillah...

Lain pula bagi orang yang senior dari segi umur. Bila tinggi egonya, semua orang yang lebih muda daripadanya d pandang sebagai kanak2 hingusan. Hanya dia sahaja yang matang. Setiap kata dan lontaran idea si junior adalah tidak bermutu dan tidak matang. Maka jiwa egois pun bertitah, "Ingin buat cara baru? Silakan, tapi Jangan minta tolong dari kami nanti!"

Semua ini lantaran Ukhuwah d anggap sebagai satu perkara yang kecil...

Bila ego/riak dan lupakan Tuhan sebagai pemberi hikmat, maka nafsulah yang d-Tuhan-kan. Dan jangan terlepas pandang, sifat ego adalah Pokok masalah, bukannya Buah. 

Pesan Junjungan; "Sejahat-jahat hamba adalah yang sombong". 

Dari pokok sombong ini, lahirlah buah pemarah, hasad dengki, fitnah menfitnah dan sifat payah hendak menerima kebenaran. Terhasil juga sifat tidak mampu memberi maaf, tidak suka meminta maaf dan prejudis dengan orang lain. Inilah buah-buahnya... 

Kalau seperti itu keadaannya, siapakah sebenarnya yang kita ikut?!

Rasulullah S.A.W.....? atau Fir'aun, pemerintah kuku besi yang masyhur kerana ke EGO an nya sehingga berani mengaku diri sebagai Tuhan?....

Wallahu'alam.